Wednesday, March 10, 2010

It's Official

We emailed our letter today to our placement agency letting them know we want off Mr Toads Wild Ride. Sad, but not, we are done being sad and mad about this and this is the last step in recovering from this entire thing. We can only go up from here as this is now over.

..."We do not plan on continuing down the Vietnam Adoption path so you can remove us from the list and please send us any information that we may be privy to from our file.
We are going to take a couple years off since this has taken a lot out of us emotionally and may possibly revisit adoption in the future."

..."We were excited at the prospect of the “new country” which was never announced which was a disappointment. It made it very hard for us to keep our paperwork updated with USCIS (171-h) as they would not grant us an extension with Vietnam listed. Not knowing what the “new country” was really got us stuck with nothing to put on our paperwork in order to keep it current as to which country we were adopting from. If I may be honest, I feel that the “new county” option should have never been put out there raising families hopes and then no communication further about it was very disheartening. Sort of chasing a dangling carrot if I may say so myself."

..."I know that none of this is your fault, there are many people that have to work together to make an adoption happen. You have always made time for my questions, phone calls, etc. and I appreciate that. You do very well at your job and this entire situation must be very hard. We are thinking positive about the future and wish you and your agency luck with future adoptions and who knows, you may hear from us in the future."

I guess I was sort of waiting until I absolutely had to send it, it was due yesterday and I sent it today if that says anything - I was holding on, but it felt good to release for sure, even better than holding on. We are both fine, looking forward to the future. Planning a couple trips and hope to travel more and just have fun!


Angela said...

Well said, I'm glad you gave them a piece of your mind. I think you are right to check them on raising your hopes for no good reason. Boo to the whole thing though! I love you, miss you and wish I could hug you!!!!

The Maltese Kat said...

Thanks Ang - what a trip this entire thing has been. So many lessons learned for sure. You know what really sucks? When you think that people have your best interest at heart because you are trying to start a family and help an orphaned child and you feel like you are being somewhat jerked around in the end. As if I didn't have enough issues with the Government NOW they are making things difficult for people to adopt children and start a family. WTF? I understand some of it and don't undertand some of it, make sense?
Why can't everyone just get along? Not entirely our agency's fault more the US Government than anyone.
XO - Katie

PS - my word verification is "focki" as in, why the focki is it so hard to adopt a child from Vietnam these days? The people in charge better get their focki shit together!

The Maltese Kat said...

and last but not least....
If anyone knew how much focki money we lost during this entire thing they would loose their focki minds.
he he he! Ok, got it out of my system!

Raquel said...

I am so hurt for you both just reading this... I can only imagine what you and Tim have been through living it.

I'm glad you are moving through it together though with your faces pointed towards the sun.

But focki, dude. Focki. Big, big hugs. xo

The Maltese Kat said...

So sweet Raquel, thanks so much!

robin said...

I love you both very much!


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